Ever notice that when you are having a bad day, everything bad happens? You wake up late, spill coffee on your shirt, stub your toe, bite your tongue, get stuck behind a school bus (and wonder, do kids EVER walk to a bus stop anymore!) have students who act out, coworkers who talk too much, lunch that is disappointing - and it rains.
This is clearly self-fulfilling prophecy: today is a bad day. Our brains do everything possible to make it be true.
The truth is, bad things happen EVERY day, but on BAD days, we notice them more. They matter to us. They "ruin" our day. But we don't even realize that we often create those problems ourselves. We are in a hurry, causing coffee spills, toe stubbing and tongue biting. We likely don't cause the timing of the bus or the actions of our students, but we MAY cause them to be exacerbated, by losing our patience, overreacting, sending out bad vibes (hey, it happens!).
I am not sure if His Holiness the Dalai Lama actually said the words in the quote over there ---> but they speak to me. We perpetuate our own peace and joy (or angst and suffering). By thinking that everything that goes wrong is to be blamed on someone else, we rob ourselves of the ability to notice the things that go right. We spiral out of control trying to blame someone - anyone! -for things that might just...BE.
It's really easy, isn't it? To just say, "So-and-so should do fill-in-the-blank and then my day would be so much better!"? Everything would be great if only someone would do something about everything. Right?
But as we have all heard before, we cannot control others; we can only control ourselves and our reactions to the world around us.
It's sure as hell not easy (I'll tell you that!), but it is possible. I say this as someone who finds it very difficult to choose positive this time of the year. (By the way, thanks to all you JERKS who said it was too hot. This is just dandy now; and a lovely shade of gray as well.)
So head out there and find your peace and joy. Make it a great day - or not - the choice is yours.