Like tea kettles, our lives are under pressure and seeking a place to explode to. Sometimes, we need to vent.
But like the cry of a tea kettle, that scream serves its purpose and then we are called to move the pot off the flame and turn it off.
How do we do the same with our venting? How do we know when the cry has been heard so we can turn it off?
For me, venting usually takes place within the safety of family or friends I can trust, those who won't take my issue and create more drama. I give them all the ugliness clogging up my system, thank them, and then know the steam can settle down into a delicious Chai Vanilla in my mug. This usually helps me clear my head, feel heard and able to focus on the situation and how to actually address it.
But at times, I find myself going from venting to stewing. The steam goes from a quick escape that cries out with suddenness to an obsession - a long, slow simmer on the burner that will never call out for attention until it ruins itself by scalding the bottom and infecting the entire pot. Simmering can be destructive if it is not kept under watch, right?
If we have a frustration and allow it to slowly blacken and spoil the rest of the goodness we have, what are we left with?
So, go ahead and vent, but vent in safety and with a purpose: acknowledge your struggles, get some sympathy, take a second to be annoyed.
But then move on! Address the problem (or choose to just let it go!), and don't put the pot back on the heat to simmer. It will be destructive and there is too much good left to be ruined.